#Be Compassionate

[juicyspacesecrets]

Something something the festive cheer something

[nevergetstuck]

[spiritualseeker777]

[wordsofwisdomandsoul]

[gqandw]

Be compassionate and take responsibility for each other.

Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch Albom

[immortalvipers]

Trust that your child will make the right decisions. If they do not, guide them through it. We have seen far too often children being treated as property rather than human individuals. Just because they are young does not mean it is fair to treat them with less respect and care. Be careful of what you say and do, and listen when it brings stress to your children. They will be curious. They will be concerned. They will be emotional. That is all normal. They are only human. Denying your child the right to boundaries is toxic. Denying your child the right to privacy is toxic. Try to put yourself in your child's shoes. They will be independent at one point. Listen when they say they are not happy. Listen when they say they are upset. Listen when they say you are the problem. Do not push it away. Embrace it, accept it, and change your ways. Do not force your child into an environment where they feel miserable and unsafe. Let them go into the comfort they desire.

[tessaannedesigns]

Spread Kindness! 💛💙🤍

[travelersrest]

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[i-love-an-alcoholic]

The man behind the bottle

I've been asked why I even bother with S. He's an alcoholic after all. A drunk, a troublemaker, a burden to everyone around him. A son, a brother, an uncle. A human being.

S is shy, a little withdrawn at first but once he is comfortable with you he turns into an easygoing, surprisigly good conversationalist, who is genuinely interested in you. He loves soccer, music, video games and drama series. He can play guitar and drums. He'll watch any sport that's on TV and likes to bet on them, but almost never wins anything. He's one of the hardest-working people I know and loves to talk about work (it does get a little annoying at times).

It's easy to reduce an addict to just their problem, and forget about the person behind. Whenever someone asks for advice to help their loved ones struggling with addiction there's a lot of "just leave them", "don't waste your time" or "they'll never change" instead of actual useful advice. Addiction is difficult to treat, but is giving up without a fight truly the best course of action? There's a whole medical speciality for it, there's a lot of research around the subject and there are people who have gone through hell to get to the other side.

I wouldn't be here if people hadn't seen me as a person needing help instead of someone beyond it.

S has come a long way, but he's not there yet. I can't make decisions on his behalf, but I can talk to him, be there for him, and give him tough love when it is needed. He is worth it, and so is anybody with addiction.

[thelonelyfirefly]

[dinosaurwithablog]

I think this offers insights that will benefit those who take the time to read it. If you don't want to read it all, please read the last part. Thank you, OP, for sharing this with us!! 😁😍🫂

the person who helped today when I fell out of my wheelchair actually did a really great job, so I want to share in case other people wonder what to do. [Note: this is not universal, this is merely a suggestion from one person, every wheelchair user's needs are different! I am a person who uses a manual chair usually pushed by someone else who is also disabled.]

Scenario: you see someone in a wheelchair fall out of their chair, and you have the ability to help.

1. Approach and ask "are you okay?"*

2. Next question if they say no, are vague, or open to continuing conversation** is, "is there anything I can do to help?" Or "what can I do?"

If they say no to help, then that's the end, just leave and go do whatever you were doing!

If they ask for help or say they are mildly injured, ask "what would you like me to do?" And wait for an answer before doing anything! If they seem dazed or confused, they might have hit their head or had another medical event*, or they might just be like that due to regular disability. Be patient.

Do not touch the person unless they say to, or they are like, unconcious in the middle of the road, ya know?? Wheelchair users usually have conditions that mean being handled improperly can severely injure us, you could cause much more damage than the fall.

Some things they might need you to do:

Bring their wheelchair closer (mine went about 5 feet away after it dumped me)

engage the brakes of the wheelchair

hold wheelchair steady if it's an unsteady surface (mud, hill, ramp, wet, etc)

offer an arm for them to hold onto to get up (them grabbing you, not you grabbing them) or move another solid item closer for them to use (i.e. a chair) [only do this if you physically have the ability to!]

If the terrain is rough (i.e. a parking lot), they *might* ask you to push their chair to a more stable area once they are back in their chair

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Something else

Do what they ask, NOT what you think would be helpful. If for some reason you have to do something (i.e. you can't stop oncoming traffic and need to get them out) ASAP, tell them what you plan to do

Keep in mind they might also be D/deaf, have a communication disability, be stunned after the fall, have a head injury, not trust other people, etc. Be patient and treat them as a person with autonomy and agency! They might need to just sit on the ground for a few minutes to recover before trying to get back in their chair. They might want everyone to leave them alone. They might ask you to call someone specific. Their chair might have broken and that can be extremely distressing. All of this is like if your legs spontaneously stop working when you're out and about!

A lot of wheelchair users (NOT ALL) have ways to get into their chair on their own once the chair is close enough and brakes engaged (but it's hard from the ground!). Here's what brakes look like on a lot of manual wheelchairs, in case they ask you to lock the brakes. They're levers on each side and pushing the lever pushes a bar against the wheel to hold it still.

ID: A manual wheelchair with the brake levels circled in red and labeled "user brake levers"

*There is also the possibility of course that a person fell out of their chair due to a seizure or other medical event, so that is why it is important to ask if they are okay. If you saw them hit their head, tell them so. If they had a medical event, follow protocol for that, I'm not gonna get into it here (thought I could).

**sometimes a person will be clear after the first question i.e. "I'm all good thanks" clearly means they do not need you to ask another question, you can just leave them alone. Keep walking and don't stare. A lot of the time people will be a bit banged up but be totally fine and able to manage on their own.

TLDR: Ask the wheelchair user if they're okay, then what they need, and then do exactly that, including leaving them alone. Thanks!

[spiritualseeker777]

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

License to Kitty.

[consecratedn-ation]

This morning I got to the book of Jonah, which made me realize a few things. Like how we’re called to imitate Christ, and that includes his compassion as well. Then I realized just how much I lacked that since I am exactly like Jonah. In verse 5 of chapter 1 it says:

“Then the mariners were afraid, and each cried out to his god. And they hurled the cargo that was in the ship into the sea to lighten it for them. But Jonah had gone down into the inner part of the ship and had lain down and was fast asleep. So the captain came and said to him, “What do you mean, you sleeper? Arise, call out to your god! Perhaps the god will give a thought to us, that we may not perish.””

This made me realize that just because we can be assured in our salvation doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t be unaware or sleeping to the trouble of the people around us. Be compassionate knowing that they may be troubled and afraid and are willing to do anything so that they can have some kind of ground to stand on, in this world and the next.

It may be hard to realize if someone is going through this pain mentally or emotionally, but just be there for as many people as possible to help them in case they may really need a helping hand one day. Be that stable ground for someone else so that maybe through you they can find a foundation in Jesus, in God.

But I love you all and I pray that whoever sees this will abound in God’s compassion through grace. Many blessings, and rejoice in the LORD always, peace.

[niccocum]

You can be gleeful that you knew. That you warned them. That you told them so. Feel proud you did not get lured by the song of Trump. And then be compassionate because you knew and because they are suffering. And a tiny bit forgiving them because they did not knew what they did (even if they got told so, they did not understand). Be at least compassionate enough to now fold them into the group of people who no longer follow delusions and might want to fight back. To Quote another president: "If they go low, we go high".

I do actually care marginally about the guy in that reddit screenshot who voted for Trump and is now worried that he might lose his medicaid funding because I did not fucking stutter when I said healthcare is a human right but the people losing their internships and job offers to the hiring freeze are straight up hilarious.